Being a new mom is a tough learning curve.
There is lots that you won’t know and lots that you will have to learn as you go.
That’s ok, that’s normal.
We have 5 of our best tips to give you, here.
But remember, it’s all about doing what’s right for you and for your baby, at the end of the day there is no “right” or “wrong” in being a mom.
Trust Your Instincts
When are you a new mom, no doubt you will be getting advice from all directions.
Different books will say different things, and your friends will swear by different techniques than your own mom will.
Information will be coming at you from all angles and it’s very easy to get overwhelmed.
Remember to trust your instincts.
You might be feeling anxious and feel like you don’t have any, but you definitely do.
You are your baby’s mother, and you know them best.
Read what you need to read and take advice sometimes, but mostly, listen to yourself and do what you think is right.
Don’t Aim for Perfection
An easy way to feel rubbish about yourself and your parenting skills is to set unrealistic expectations of yourself.
If you compare yourself too much to other moms you know or other moms on social media, it’s far too easy to fall into the trap of thinking that everyone else is perfect and you are the only one getting it wrong.
This isn’t true.
No-one is a perfect mom, no matter how good of a performance they put on Instagram.
Don’t aim for perfection, aim for good enough.
As long as you and your baby are safe and healthy, that is really all that matters.
Leave comparison and drama to everyone else, and don’t involve yourself.
Keep a Note of Your Baby’s Routine
Getting into a routine with a new baby is great.
A routine will help you get things done and manage your time well.
However, you can’t create your own routine and expect a baby to stick it, especially not straight away as a newborn.
A really handy way to figure out your baby’s ideal routine is to keep a note of their own natural timings, and then build a routine around that.
Keep a little journal and note down when your baby sleeps, when they wake up, when they feed, and when they normally get fussy.
You can build your routine around them over time, and it should work out the best for both of you.
Don’t Stay in The House Too Much
Whenever you can, get out of the house.
Staying in the house too often will make you more frustrated over time. It can affect your mood, your sleep, and your energy levels.
Get out for walks as often as possible, even if they are short.
It will make a big difference.
Build A Support Network
Building a support network with other moms is a great way to approach the early days of parenthood.
There is a lot of value in talking and listening to people in the exact same position in you. Other moms can have more empathy for you than anyone else, and they can understand your problems more than anyone else.
They also can have some great tips and tricks for you, and can recommend any equipment/books that you need.
You don’t have to do it alone.
There is support everywhere, make the most of it.